Feminists Need to Take A Step Back

With this recent surge in internet feminism, which I’ll admit is pretty justified, I’d just like to say a few things.

I know that there are a lot of double standards for women, and it’s complete crap there’s old bigots in Washington trying to come up with ways to take away our rights, but I honestly think a lot of the women in this country have forgotten how lucky we are. There are very few nations that treat women as well as women are treated here.

We live in a society where women can work and hold authority. Where women have the right to choose when and who they marry. Where most women have access to birth control and are completely in control of when or if they want to have children. Where women have equal access to education, and more often than not take advantage of that. Where women are favored to have custody over their children and ownership of their house when relationships go sour. We are so lucky that we live in a society that let’s women chose how want to act and live, cause the majority of women in this world are not that fortunate.

Our great-grandmothers, probably even farther back than that, fought tooth and nail so we could live in the society we live in today where women are treated with respect and not like pieces of property.

So this trivial whining about how schools are sexist because they won’t let girls come to school half naked and how we aren’t allowed to freely express our sexuality and how we need to completely flip education on sexual abuse because we’re telling our boys that raping women is a-okay (which is not true in the slightest). Just remember that there are women in this world that are slaves to their fathers and husbands, women that are not allowed an education, places where women have to undergo forced abortions, and there are places where a women can be put to death for being raped because they asked for it. Any woman reading this should consider themselves lucky enough to have been born in place that treats women with respect and like human beings and not property.

Remember that. I personally cannot see what is so bad about the way women in this country are treated.

Dreaming Done Weird

The Opinionated Man came up with a beautiful writing prompt asking about our dreams. Now as fortune would have it, I have a journal that I’ve been writing my particularly memorable dreams in since I was 13 years old. And let me tell you, I’ve got some good ones. I’ll share my the best ones.

1. March 14, 2005, I had a dream in which my middle school gym teacher and Hitler got out of a sports car and started singing Mr. Roboto together.

2. December 27, 2005, I had a dream in which I grabbed my cat and tore off his entire hind quarters off and he walked around only his front end. Naturally, this was a pretty traumatic nightmare.

3. March 10, 2009, I had a dream that Anakin Skywalker was the father of my three younger cousins and when I knocked over my youngest cousin’s stroller he about murdered me.

4. April 22, 2011, I had a dream in which I was in one of those dolphin tanks that they have at places like SeaWorld when the tank began to flood and fall apart. I swam to safety, but a woman threw her baby at me and I was unable to save it and it fell into the tank.

5. November 8, 2012, I had a dream that I was in a play but I didn’t have any of my lines memorized or have a costume, so I went on stage in Ravenclaw robes and no pants and did not get a single line right. The next night it was my birthday and James aka UberHaxorNova from YouTube was there (I have a massive love on him) and he was in the play too and I couldn’t find him and I was really sad about it.

Recurring dreams:

1. I’m pregnant.

2. My high school chemistry/physics teacher keeps his wife’s corpse on display in his classroom.

3. I’m a video game or another fictional character. Most commonly Link from Legend of Zelda and Connor from Assassin’s Creed 3. 

4. I cannot dial phone numbers in emergencies. I forget how to dial 911 even.

5. I’m having sex, usually in inappropriate places or with someone who isn’t my current partner. 

About 99% of my dreams are so weird and don’t make any sense, but with that being said, I do take a lot of inspiration from my dreams. I’m currently writing a book series and there are quite a few ideas I got for that series from dreams I have had. I’ve even got ideas for whole books from dreams I’ve had. I do not agree with Dumbledore’s famous quote of “It is not wise to dwell on dreams.” At least for me personally, my dreams give me things to think about that I otherwise never would have. 

I don’t know

I just had a friend come out to me last night as MTF, and I don’t know what to think about it. It was probably one of the weirdest conversations of my life. I can’t stop thinking about it. And this is something that I can’t really talk about with anyone (I don’t have a problem sharing it on the internet because nobody knows who I’m talking about).

I just feel like I’m in a bad position. Obviously, I would be the go to person to talk to about being transgendered if you happen to be that way, but I don’t know anything about MTF. I actually cannot really wrap my brain around MTF. I get that’s how that person feels and they can’t help it, but at the same time I’m thinking, why the hell would anybody want to be a female? I know that’s an ignorant thing to say. I don’t judge people for wanting to be that way cause I understand what they’re going through, but I’m on the other end of this. I don’t want to be a female so I don’t know what to say to someone who does.

Are there any MTF’s out there that can enlighten me about what to do about this situation, because I don’t want to sound like an asshole and say that I have no idea how to help him, cause right now I just feel really alienated and uncomfortable.